My name is Tim Hayes. I am a psychologist in Northern Illinois. For the past 25 – 30 years I have watched my ankles, feet and hands grow weaker and weaker despite my attempts to strengthen them. I have tried vitamins, minerals, herbs, energy work, emotional work, massage, chiropractic treatments, lots of exercise, prayer, and more. The blessing in this is that there is no pain involved in the “neuropathy”, or lack of nerve functioning, just a failure of the nerve signal to stimulate the muscles so that they eventually atrophy, (shrink away).

Four Years ago I invested in custom made Ankle Foot Orthotics at a cost of $3,000.00 out of my own pocket. This was because I had difficulty walking without tripping and falling, and could not stand securely in one place without falling backwards. After three months of wearing them I realized they were only making my ankles weaker – so I only wore them when I had to stand to give a presentation, or go to a business event where I needed to walk or stand for any length of time.

By the Fall of 2015 I “knew” that I would soon be using a walker, and/or a wheel chair to get around, even in my office – because I was using the walls and the chairs in the office to stabilize nearly every move I made. I had to think about every step, and if I didn’t, I would trip and fall over. That summer I had ridden over 1,000 miles on my two wheel bicycle and had to stop because my ankles were just getting weaker. As a result I fell over most of the times that I needed to start or stop quickly. So, I invested in a three wheel bike so that I could continue to ride outdoors. I put another 500 miles on the three wheel bike, and my ankles only got weaker.

In September of 2015 my friend and chiropractor acquired a BEMER and suggested that I try it. I used the BEMER almost every day once a day, and at the end of two weeks my woman friend told me that my legs and feet were warmer. By the end of three weeks, I noticed that I was standing without leaning on anything while I shaved. That is when I ordered my own BEMER.

I have continued to use the BEMER as directed, (8 minutes twice per day),  and noticed that during the Winter of 2015-2016 my hands were amazingly functional in the cold weather. Prior to that time my hands would simply stop functioning “well”, or at all, when the temperature dropped below 40 degrees Fahrenheit. I was truly amazed at how my hands functioned in the cold weather, better than they had in over fifteen years.

In December of 2016 the movers we scheduled did not arrive, and so after waiting three hours, I rented a seventeen foot truck and spent six hours on that Saturday, and seven hours on Sunday climbing in and out of the back of that truck and carrying furniture. It wasn’t until Sunday evening that it dawned on me that one year ago I would not have been able to climb into that truck even once, without help.

I continue to use the BEMER as directed, and enjoy the benefits of the improved circulation it provides, and the progress my body is making on this journey.

Dear Friends,

I want to thank all of you who read, and follow this blog, for your time and consideration.

For quite a while now, I have been working on the challenge of rebuilding and repairing my website and the audio files that are such a large part of that site.

I am nearing completion and would like to ask that you notify me if any of you find a file, or a link on this website that does not work. There will be many links from past blog posts that are no longer valid, and I am looking into whether that can be remedied.

My goal is to have my talks posted on my website, where they will be able to remain accessible. I have no control over whether the talks are posted, and how long they remain one of the websites for the churches I visit. So, my goal is to have my talks posted at www.ch4cs.com/media-page/audio

There are some “hidden files that some of you have requested, and they are available HERE and I will continue working to upload those until it is complete.

My last two talks – one at Unity Spiritual Center of Woodstock, and one at Unity of Rockford – are now available on my website media-audio page. Again that is: www.ch4cs.com/media-page/audio

Thanks again for listening and sharing this work with anyone you feel may be interested.

We Come From Love. We Are Made Of Love. We Are Love! Everything Else Is False.

On Sunday January 17, 2016 I was privileged to give the talk, during the service, at the Unity Spiritual Center Woodstock. I was asked to address the congregation because their minister, Rev. Tom Wendt had retired and his last talk was the previous week. They wanted me to address issues of grief, loss, and transition in relationships. I discussed this in the talk during the service and ended with a brief meditation on release. The audio of that talk is now available on my website through this link – http://ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=213

Then following the service, I gave a two hour workshop on one of the most powerful and useful tools I have learned in all my years of living life, and doing therapy. This tool did not come from a book, or someone’s theory about how things work, but rather from life experience and loving relationships. I talked about a tool for being able to Say Goodbye to Good People, Without Saying Goodbye to Good Memories. This tool has been helpful in my life, anytime there has been a transition, or someone moves away, or dies, or simply decides they don’t want to be in relationship with me.

I have given this workshop many times over the years, but this time I was finally able to get a decent recording. The audio files are available on my website through these links – http://ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=214 http://ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=216

The handout for the workshop is available here – http://ch4cs.com/upload/saying_goodbye_to_good_people_-_handout.pdf

As usual, I welcome comments and questions, and hope you will share this information with anyone you think can benefit from this tool.

We Come From Love, We Are Made of Love, We Are Love! Everything else is false.

I have been blessedly busy lately, and as such I have not posted several things which have come to me to write about. So, here are several little bits which probably deserve their own extended posts.
I like the process and results of Observation, far better than the process and results of belief.

When I am observing I am questioning and open to discovery. I can then choose to act on what I see to be True in the moment.

When I believe something, I am accessing old mental constructs and making decisions based on the past. Life is Flow and energy in motion. When I believe something, and make decisions based on the past, I take myself out of the presence moment and act as though life is static. This prevents me from seeing the flow of life, and prevents me from learning anything new.

In order to learn anything new, I must approach the presence moment with the understanding that what I currently think I know is either only partially true, or completely false. Otherwise I enter the situation knowing that “I know what I know; I know how I know it; I know how and why it’s right!” When I enter a situation from that perspective I am going to leave it knowing what I knew. From that perspective there is no possibility for learning and growth.

Here is a link to a nine minute clip about the value of observation over belief, and a story illustrating the point: http://ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=210

 
While listening to people talk recently, and hearing people degrade themselves and others because of poor decisions, I was prompted to write the following:

There are no idiots. Only Brilliant Souls who have temporarily forgotten, or have yet to discover their Brilliance.

Everyone has done things which by their own assessment they have looked back on and labeled it idiotic. That was just a single decision or behavior. That is simply a single choice or a snapshot in time. Those things do not define us. Even when we happen to string together a series of events, or days, weeks, months, or years when we do things we later label as idiotic. That does not define us.

We have choice. We can learn, and choose again. This is one of the wonderful things that separate us from every other known creature.
There are no idiots. Only Brilliant Souls who have temporarily forgotten, or have yet to discover their Brilliance.

 
On a road trip recently I listened to several of my old talks and found that I have some new favorites. This prompted me to edit two short pieces and add them to my website.

Here is a link to a six minute clip which is the best I have heard myself talk about role models: http://ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=209

Here is a link to a twenty minute talk I gave at the Unity Spiritual Center in July 2015:http://ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=202

Thanks for reading and listening.

Happy Holy Days!

We Come From Love, We Are Made Of Love, We Are Love!  Everything else is false.

On this morning I am grateful for all of the events in my life which have led me to this place and time.  I am grateful for the struggles, hurdles and trials which have taught me to let go.  I am grateful for the parents who lovingly nurtured me through the first 21 years of my life before I moved out to make my own way in the world.  I am grateful for the siblings who have shared this journey with me.  I am grateful for the friends I have been privileged to have in my life who are too wonderful to describe in words.  I am exceedingly grateful for the two Sons I have who continually give me lessons, and stir the Joy and appreciation of my Heart.

I am grateful to have learned that I don’t need to “re-invent the wheel”, when it comes to finding ways to appreciate life, and improve my internal experience of life.  I am grateful to have been introduced to the true wisdom schools in their many forms, and glad that I had been prepared by my parents, siblings, friends, my children, and life events to be able to recognize the usefulness of that wisdom.

I am grateful to have met fellow wisdom seekers along the way, and especially for those who join me every Tuesday and Thursday evenings for the Mindshifter Groups in Woodstock, IL and Crystal Lake, IL respectively.  If you have never heard of these groups before, that won’t mean much to you, so imagine if you will, people who choose to give up their usual pursuits, hobbies, work, family time, various mind-numbing stimulants – whether that be television, food, drugs, alcohol, or other distractions – to come together with like-minded souls to question everything about their life.  People who choose to do something to improve their internal experience of life, rather than simply complain about it.  Not that the people who come to Mindshifters Groups never complain about things!  It is just that they have made a commitment, (and backed it up with action), to learn and apply tools which actually change the parts of themselves that like to complain.  So, people who actually use these tools end up complaining a lot less about the events, people, and situations in their lives, and notice with ease, how much more there is to enjoy, and appreciate in their lives.

I have gratitude for those who have been coming to these groups regularly for years.  I have gratitude for those who have come and tried the group experience even once or twice.  I know that no one tool, school, or teacher is right for everyone, and I hope for those who don’t feel  that these groups and tools are a fit for them, that they continue looking until they find the way to improve their lives and Live from the conscious awareness of their True Nature as the energy of Creation – Love.

I have deep appreciation and gratitude for all the Master Teachers over the centuries who have dedicated themselves to learning, applying, and sharing the wisdom which allows Integration – some would say “healing”.  I have special appreciation for the Master Teachers I have been privileged to meet, read, and study with in this lifetime.  Including – but not limited to – Dr. Michael and Jeanie Ryce who provide the core of the tools we use in the Mindshifter Groups; Guy Finley and the Life of Learning Foundation which provides so much rich material for my personal work, public talks, and Mindshifter Groups; Dale Allen Hoffman who continues to explore the actuality of being a Spiritual, “Christian”, Mystic and shares that journey with so many; Tricia Alexander – Musician, Healer, Mystic, Wisdom School student who touches more lives Lovingly than she will ever know; J. Krishnamurti whose writings were the first and most relentlessly pure statement of the need to question everything that I ever encountered as a young aspirant; and to Josip Pasic who insisted I read J. Krishnamurti’s works and study them.

This gratitude post was sparked by the past several weeks of deeply moving and powerful Mindshifter Groups, and those wonderful, Loving people  who shared their time and their Love with the other participants, and showed us all what true Willingness and Surrender can achieve.

I invite all of you reading this to explore these tools, the support groups, and the Internet show which happens five days a week from  noon to 1:00 pm Central Time on Blog Talk Radio, (and has five years of archived shows available FREE at www.whyagain.org and clicking the link for Mindshifters Radio).  The core tool is the Reality Management Worksheet and it is available for FREE at www.whyagain.org.

We Come From Love, We Are Made Of Love, We Are Love!  Everything else is false.

On this Friday morning, the last day of July in 2015, I am grateful for all of the events in my life which have led me to this place and time.  I am grateful for the struggles, hurdles and trials which have taught me to let go.  I am grateful for the parents who lovingly nurtured me through the first 21 years of my life before I moved out to make my own way in the world.  I am grateful for the siblings who have shared this journey with me.  I am grateful for the friends I have been privileged to have in my life who are too wonderful to describe in words.  I am exceedingly grateful for the two Sons I have who continually give me lessons, and stir the Joy and appreciation of my Heart.

I am grateful to have learned that I don’t need to “re-invent the wheel”, when it comes to finding ways to appreciate life, and improve my internal experience of life.  I am grateful to have been introduced to the true wisdom schools in their many forms, and glad that I had been prepared by my parents, siblings, friends, my children, and life events to be able to recognize the usefulness of that wisdom.

I am grateful to have met fellow wisdom seekers along the way, and especially for those who join me every Tuesday and Thursday evenings for the Mindshifter Groups in Woodstock, IL and Crystal Lake, IL respectively.  If you have never heard of these groups before, that won’t mean much to you, so imagine if you will, people who choose to give up their usual pursuits, hobbies, work, family time, various mind-numbing stimulants – whether that be television, food, drugs, alcohol, or other distractions – to come together with like-minded souls to question everything about their life.  People who choose to do something to improve their internal experience of life, rather than simply complain about it.  Not that the people who come to Mindshifters Groups never complain about things!  It is just that they have made a commitment, (and backed it up with action), to learn and apply tools which actually change the parts of themselves that like to complain.  So, people who actually use these tools end up complaining a lot less about the events, people, and situations in their lives, and notice with ease, how much more there is to enjoy, and appreciate in their lives.

I have gratitude for those who have been coming to these groups regularly for years.  I have gratitude for those who have come and tried the group experience even once or twice.  I know that no one tool, school, or teacher is right for everyone, and I hope for those who don’t feel  that these groups and tools are a fit for them, that they continue looking until they find the way to improve their lives and Live from the conscious awareness of their True Nature as the energy of Creation – Love.

I have deep appreciation and gratitude for all the Master Teachers over the centuries who have dedicated themselves to learning, applying, and sharing the wisdom which allows Integration – some would say “healing”.  I have special appreciation for the Master Teachers I have been privileged to meet, read, and study with in this lifetime.  Including – but not limited to – Dr. Michael and Jeanie Ryce who provide the core of the tools we use in the Mindshifter Groups; Guy Finley and the Life of Learning Foundation which provides so much rich material for my personal work, public talks, and Mindshifter Groups; Dale Allen Hoffman who continues to explore the actuality of being a Spiritual, “Christian”, Mystic and shares that journey with so many; Tricia Alexander – Musician, Healer, Mystic, Wisdom School student who touches more lives Lovingly than she will ever know; J. Krishnamurti whose writings were the first and most relentlessly pure statement of the need to question everything that I ever encountered as a young aspirant; and to Josip Pasic who insisted I read J. Krishnamurti’s works and study them.

This gratitude post was sparked by the past several weeks of deeply moving and powerful Mindshifter Groups, and those wonderful, Loving people  who shared their time and their Love with the other participants, and showed us all what true Willingness and Surrender can achieve.

I invite all of you reading this to explore these tools, the support groups, and the Internet show which happens five days a week from  noon to 1:00 pm Central Time on Blog Talk Radio, (and has five years of archived shows available FREE at www.whyagain.org and clicking the link for Mindshifters Radio).  The core tool is the Reality Management Worksheet and it is available for FREE at www.whyagain.org.

We Come From Love, We Are Made Of Love, We Are Love!  Everything else is false.

Dear Friends,

I wanted to share the audio file for the talk I gave yesterday at the Unity Spiritual Center in Woodstock and convey my gratitude to Ken Johnson who so eloquently played a song before the talk, and a song immediately following the talk, which to my mind made the talk a beautiful thing.  The song Ken played so skillfully prior to the talk was Peter Mayer’s song, Holy Now.  The song Ken played immediately after the talk was Peter Mayer’s song, My Soul.  These songs can be heard on YouTube in various versions by Peter Mayer, and I must say that Peter’s versions are almost as heartfelt and inspiring as what Ken provided to us during the service yesterday.

You can listen to the talk on my website here http://www.ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=202

I wish to also extend my gratitude to the Community at the Unity Spiritual Center in Woodstock, for hosting my Mindshifters Group each Tuesday, and for occasionally asking me to address the congregation.

We Come From Love, We Are Made Of Love, We Are Love!  Everything else is false.

I was honored to give the presentation at Christ Church Unity of Rockford yesterday.  When I was there, they were kind enough to give me a copy of the talk I gave there in February, the same day my mother had a serious fall and ended up in the hospital with more than fifteen stitches in her scalp.   I was so disoriented at the time, that I forgot to turn on my tape recorder and thought that I would never have a recording of that talk.

Now, much to my surprise and delight, I have two talks to share with you, one from February 22, 2015, and one from June 7, 2015.

Here are the links to those talks on my website –

http://www.ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=200  June 7, 2015

http://www.ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=201  February 22, 2015

Please feel free to enjoy these and share them with anyone who you feel may benefit.

We Come From Love, We Are Made Of Love, We Are Love!  Everything else is false.

Dear Friends,

I am pleased to be able to share with you a link to a YouTube video which takes 24 minutes to explain the core of the Forgiveness process that comes from the ancient Aramaic language and the teachings of Dr. Michael Ryce.

This video and PowerPoint was prepared and posted by Bill Costantino.  I wish to express my gratitude to Bill for the tremendous amount of work he put into this project, first from the level of learning and then teaching this material, and then for all the hours of work it took to produce this video.

Think about how many times you have heard discussions about forgiveness, and how many times you have been told to forgive.  Then think about how many times you have actually been given a step by step, specific process for how to forgive.  I have been doing therapy for over 40 years, and this is the clearest, most powerful, and effective process I have ever encountered for achieving Forgiveness, and improving the quality of my mental and emotional life and relationships.  It is being offered for FREE!!!

Click Here to View the Video

Please enjoy this video and share it will anyone you know who could benefit from understanding the actual “how to” of the ancient Aramaic process of Forgiveness.

We Come From Love.  We Are Made Of Love.  We Are Love!  Everything else is false.

The recording of Dale Allen Hoffman’s talk at the Mindshifters Group, at the Unity Spiritual Center in Woodstock, IL this week, is posted on my website and now available for download or direct listening.

I wish to thank Dale and his son Mikey for driving all the way from North Carolina just to be with us for three days!

I also wish, once again, to express my gratitude to this Loving Community which has supported this work, and each other, on the journey to improving the quality of our lives.

http://www.ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=194

http://www.ch4cs.com/audio.asp?ID=195

We Come From Love.  We Are Made Of Love.  We Are Love.  Everything else is false.