I have run into a pattern recently in working with people. These people do not like themselves, or something about the way they are as people, and they are angry or resentful about it and want to change. This has led to numerous discussions about what is needed in order for people to achieve the change they want make in themselves. Many people are operating under the false impression that they need to be unhappy with the way they are, and make changes in the way they are, in order to be able to love and accept themselves. The truth is that we need to love and accept ourselves in order to be able to change!
Last night in the Mindshifters group we listened to the second half-hour of the four hour audio lecture titled Why Is This Happening To Me Again? The thing that struck me about the material this time through was the statement that, “My mind can only show me the past, until I cancel and dismantle all the old false realities which I have stored in my mind, and my body’s energy system by the process of denial and suppression.”
Dr. Michael Ryce talks about how it is helpful to hear the same material stated in different ways and from different points of view and different disciplines, such as science, psychology, theology, etc., and that this helps us integrate new material. This post is about how we give up on the true nature of ourselves sometime between the time we are born, and the time we become adults. Dr. Ryce describes this process in some detail in his lecture titled “From Co-dependence to Inter-dependence”, in which he discusses the role of the Power Person in each of our lives. A Power Person is anyone for whom we “gave up” our conscious connection to our true nature as Love, in order to win the acceptance, and approval of the Power Person. Clearly each of us can have more than one Power Person in our lives.
Last night the Mindshifters group listened to the first part of a 4 hour audio version of Dr. Michael Ryce’s lecture titled; Why Is This Happening To Me Again? We decided to listen to the audio version because it is more detailed than the two hour video lecture of the same name, and in it Dr. Ryce takes more time explaining the underlying reasons for why our emotional system works the way it does. In this version the first thing that stuck out for me was the comment about Blockage of Personal Error, which is a condition from which we all suffer. The greatest threat to our ability to see the truth in any situation is our Blockage of Personal Error. Blockage of Personal Error is the direct result of our denying our creator-ship. For if we accept that we are creating our internal reality, and all of our emotions, and all of our reactions, then we will have nothing to blame on others, and nothing to blame on our circumstances.
I received a note recently with a comments about work that is happening as a result of this group process and the tools Dr. Michael Ryce offers.
The Great Transformer
Loving What You Hate
Granted, it is difficult to forgo judging someone, love your enemy, and seek the good in situations that seem orchestrated to cause you pain or anger. But in deciding to love what you hate, you become one less person adding negativity to the universe. On a simple level, loving what you hate can help you enjoy your life more. On a more complex level, loving what you hate sets you free because you disengage yourself from the hatred that can weigh down the soul. Responding with love to people radiating hatred transmutes their negative energy. You also empower yourself by not letting their negativity enter your personal space. Rather than lowering yourself to the level of their hatred, you give the other person an opportunity to rise above their feelings and meet you on the field of love.
Gandhi once said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Loving what you hate sends a positive, beautiful ene rgy to people while spreading peace and harmony throughout the planet. Instead of reinforcing hatred, you become an advocate for love. Hatred responds to hate by causing anguish. But hatred responds to love by transforming into blissful peace.”
Last night we watched the second half of the lecture titled “Empowered To Heal”. The focus of the first half of the lecture was the way our thoughts send energy waves out into the world and how those thoughts change the way our world appears to us, and effects others in our world. The first law for living a long and happy life was reviewed, “Hold the condition of Love in your mind for God, Neighbor, and Self.” So once again we are directed to focus on our internal feelings and to maintain awareness that we are creating our internal feelings. Whenever our internal feeling is anything less than Love, it is within our ability to choose to reconnect with Love and bring about healing for ourselves and others we have contact with, either physically or in our thoughts.
“Don’t I get more holy by putting the needs of others first?” Since you can’t get any holier than you are, the only game is to recognize holiness.”
“As soon as you think
Someone else has to change
To make you happier,
The answer to happiness
“I hate ego Charlie! Then it is winning its battle with you. Ego doesn’t care what makes you hateful, only that you are.”
“A person only suppresses when coping is difficult, but coping is equivalent to acceptance. Healing comes as soon as you ask why a certain emotion is horrible in the first place? Yes, I know its probably because someone told you it was. But who is that someone else? Isn’t it just another soul searching for Love? Why would that somebody else be more of an authority on okay feelings than you are?”
“Some are better at letting in light than others, but all have the free will to do it. Some look within to find it; some look without. But just because a soul belongs to this or that organization doesn’t mean its light is any brighter. Awareness has to do with how well you know yourself, not how well you tell others what you know.”
“As soon as life is appreciated, the wonder is understood. Philosophical questions are helpful or not depending on how you feel while pondering them. The soul in appreciation looks for all the good reasons it exists. The soul in doubt looks for the opposite, and if that isn’t masochistic, I don’t know what is.”
“…nothing is a gift if the giver isn’t loved in the process.”