{"id":106,"date":"2009-01-30T23:02:00","date_gmt":"2009-01-30T23:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ch4cs.com\/blog\/?p=106"},"modified":"2009-01-30T23:02:00","modified_gmt":"2009-01-30T23:02:00","slug":"a-letter-from-a-friend-you-should-read","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ch4cs.com\/index.php\/a-letter-from-a-friend-you-should-read\/","title":{"rendered":"A Letter From A Friend You Should Read!"},"content":{"rendered":"
I have often told people I have been blessed with magnificent friends in my life. \u00a0Here is a letter I received today from my friend Joe. \u00a0I think after reading it you will see why I make such a claim about my friends. \u00a0<\/div>\n
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Joe wrote:<\/div>\n
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“Most of us have had many discussions about the topic of forgiveness – especially as it relates to \u2018A Course in Miracles\u2019 or Michael Ryce\u2019s teachings and the forgiveness worksheet. \u00a0This is a brief recap.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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The mind is an evidential device; it gives us evidence of what we focus on or \u2018want\u2019 to see at some level of our being.<\/div>\n
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The mind is about 10% conscious, the rest is either sub-conscious or un-conscious.<\/div>\n
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What we focus on with emotion, we create. If we focus on one thing with the conscious mind but sub-consciously\/un-consciously we want the opposite the sub-conscious\/un-conscious generally wins because there is more mind energy there [90% vs 10%].<\/div>\n
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Forgiveness is defined as letting go or releasing the sub-conscious\/un-conscious mind pattern that gives us pain [physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual].\u00a0<\/div>\n
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If we do not have a sub-conscious\/un-conscious mind pattern for something it will not resonate in is. So something that someone or something does will not upset us if we do not have a mind pattern to resonate with it. This leads to the statement:<\/div>\n
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\u201cIf I\u2019m in pain; I\u2019m in error\u201d and its corollary \u201cIf you are in pain; you are in error\u201d<\/div>\n
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So I\u2019ve been working with the forgiveness\/releasing process for about 5 years through ACIM & Michael Ryce\u2019s work. Something bothers me about this work, and that thing is that it seems like there are some issues that at least for me forgiveness work does not work on – or at least it does not seem to \u2018stick\u2019.<\/div>\n
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I\u2019m going to use my back as an example – because it is an easy example – NOT because I\u2019m looking for someone to tell me how to fix my back [that is not the point here].<\/div>\n
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There were several times in 2007 when I was in Tennessee and my back was really painful and stiff. On these occasions I\u2019d do 4 or 5 Forgiveness Worksheets a day for several days, and after this the pain wold ease up and I\u2019d feel pretty good. Then a couple of days later I\u2019d wake up with a twinge in my back and I\u2019d say, \u201cWhy is my back hurting again?\u201d And then it would get worse and later in the day I\u2019d ask \u201cWhy doesn\u2019t the benefits of the work on my back seem to last?\u201d And maybe the next morning I\u2019d wake up in pain and ask \u201cWhy is this happening to me again?\u201d And pretty soon my back was as bad or worse than before. And again I\u2019d thing \u201cWhy doesn\u2019t the benefits seem to last?\u201d<\/div>\n
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I went back a number of times and listened to \u201cWhy is this happening to me … Again?\u201d and the answer I gleaned was I was just getting into deeper levels of the negative mind patterns that caused the back pain – and these also need to be forgiven.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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So that is what I\u2019d do and the whole thing would happen – Again.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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I was pretty diligent but frustration would set in, forgiveness seemed to work real well for some issues but for some issues it did not work or if it worked the issue would come right back. And again I thought \u201cWhy is this happening to me … Again?\u201d<\/div>\n
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So about a month ago I read an article and part of the article was about questions; more specifically the questions that we ask ourselves all the time in our \u2018self talk\u2019. The article posed the question – \u201cAre we asking ourselves the \u2018right\u2019 questions?\u201d<\/div>\n
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The article went on to explain that a big job of the sub-conscious mind is to get answers for the questions that we ask ourselves through self talk. We pose questions and this massive, massive computing power goes to work looking for answers and then it presents the answers to our conscious mind. The sub-conscious mind cannot discern a \u2018helpful\u2019 question from a \u2018harmful\u2019 question, to it a question is a question and its job is to answer the question.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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SO when I asked \u201cWhy is my back hurting again?\u201d my sub-conscious went out to find a million reasons why my back was hurting, and at some level my conscious mind \u2018heard\u2019 the answers and was influenced by them. And then I asked \u201cWhy doesn\u2019t the benefits of the work on my back seem to last?\u201d and the subconscious wet to work again to provide me with answers to this. And I begin to think the work does not work for me. And I ask again with lots of emotion this time \u201cWhy is my back hurting again?\u201d and I get back answers with the same high emotion and power – your back will always hurt – you do not deserve a healthy back – you cannot do anything to change your back – and so on and so on.<\/div>\n
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So I\u2019ve RE-CREATED the situation or a painful, stiff, out of alignment back with a few simple unhelpful questions. Wow.<\/div>\n
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So the article went on to say that if we pay attention to the questions that we ask and ask \u2018power questions\u2019 instead of harmful questions; we can get our sub-conscious to answer questions that we WANT ANSWERS to. What a novel idea.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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So using my back as an example again; after I read this article I got up from my chair at work after sitting a long time and a pain shot through my back, and I asked \u201cWhat can I do to have a healthy, strong, flexible back that is in perfect alignment?\u201d And then I went on with my day. And each time the pain in my back came to my awareness I\u2019d ask a similar power question. The next day I got up from my chair and my back hurt again and I asked \u201cHow can I relieve the pain in my back?\u201d and on my way to the bathroom I thought \u201cI need to be sitting on a Body Ball instead of a chair.\u201d So I went out and bought a Body Ball and took it to work and started to use it instead of a chair. I also got some insights about what kind of exercises to do for my back, and some things to do with my diet to lower inflammation.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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By the way I\u2019ve been doing this for about 3 weeks and my while back is still sore it is about 75% better than it was a month ago.<\/div>\n
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I\u2019m asking questions I want answers to and then listen for the answers – the answers may come any time and you need to listen.<\/div>\n
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I try to pay attention and whenever something comes up that I feel negative toward I make a point of asking myself a question to turn it around. For example.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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I do not feel like going to work today, I ask \u201cWhat can I do today to make work feel fulfilling?\u201d<\/div>\n
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I do not want to get up early and exercise, I ask \u201cHow can I feel energized in my morning exercise?\u201d<\/div>\n
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I\u2019ve got a project at work that is stuck in the mud and going nowhere, I ask \u201cWhat can I do to give this project energy and move it forward?\u201d<\/div>\n
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I do not always perceive an answer but I know the sub-conscious is working on it and just asking a question that I really want an answer to seems to give me an energy boost.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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Here are some guidelines about questions; if you are interested give it a try.<\/div>\n
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The Purpose of Asking Questions:\u00a0<\/div>\n
1. Direct behavior in a positive way<\/div>\n
2. Direct a thought process in a positive way\u00a0<\/div>\n
3. Build positive emotions as it pertains to valued outcomes and behaviors\u00a0<\/div>\n
4. Collect useful information\u00a0<\/div>\n
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General Rules of Thumb:\u00a0<\/div>\n
1.Only ask questions you want answered<\/div>\n
2. When asking yourself positive questions, give yourself some time to come up with the answers 3. Keep asking the positive questions until you begin to perceive the answers\u00a0<\/div>\n
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One more thing, these \u2018unhelpful\u2019 questions seem to come natural to me, it is as if I\u2019m preprogrammed to ask questions that bring me down. Historically I seem to ask them all the time with a lot of energy, so I get unhelpful answers back with a lot of energy too.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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Before I read this article I thought a question like \u201cWhy is my back hurting again?\u201d would give me an answer that would help fix the problem. I did not think that I would get answers back that would support the problem and actually make it worse.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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I also think that some people come preprogrammed to ask \u2018power questions\u2019 – or questions that are helpful and that they really want answered. I think that a person like that would read what I wrote about power questions and say – \u201cWell shucks I do that all the time.\u201d More power to them.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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To those of us that tend to ask questions that are unhelpful [like I did], knowledge is power – if you use it. What have you got to loose –> except maybe all of the \u2018wrong\u2019 answers.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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You may want to start by thinking about something that you would like to change and write down a power question or 2 about it. Then put the paper in your pocket and review it during the day. Then before you go to bed write it again and see if you can write any answers to the question, just see what comes up, you may be surprised.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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Have a good journey<\/div>\n
Love<\/div>\n
Joe”<\/div>\n
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